Why They’re Not Hearing You – And What You Can Do About It
- Rebekah King
- Aug 25
- 2 min read
You’re in a conversation. You're saying all the right things, and still… it’s like you’re speaking different languages.
Sound familiar?
What if the issue isn’t the message… but the filter?
In episode 31 of The Brain Changers Podcast, we dive into what really causes those baffling moments where understanding breaks down... and it’s not because anyone’s being difficult.
It’s because we’re not all wired the same.
Welcome to the world of Meta Programs - a concept from Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) that explains why people interpret, react, and communicate so differently.
These are the unconscious mental habits that shape how we process the world.
Not good or bad. Just different.
Think of them as the brain’s default settings.
In the episode, we unpack five of the most common ones:
Toward vs. Away From Motivation - Are you chasing goals or avoiding mistakes?
Internal vs. External Reference - Do you just know you've done a good job… or do you need feedback to be sure?
Options vs. Procedures - Are you energised by possibilities or comforted by a clear step-by-step?
Sameness vs. Difference - Do you notice patterns and familiarity… or what’s new and changing?
Big Picture vs. Detail - Do you want the overview… or the specifics?
Why does this matter?
Because when these filters clash - in relationships, leadership, parenting, teamwork - conversations quickly get messy. What feels vague to one person might feel like micromanagement to another.
If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation muttering, “Why don’t they just get it?” this episode will help you understand what’s really going on under the surface (and how to fix it).
🎧 Listen now to Episode 31: When understanding breaks down... and how to fix it.
And if you’re serious about rewiring how you lead, communicate and influence - from the inside out - join the waitlist for The Brain Changer™ Academy
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